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In and Out of Time


In and Out of Time

The sun has come.
The mists have gone.
We see in the distance
our long way home.
I was always yours to have.
You were always mine.
We have loved each other in and out of time.
When the first stone looked up at the blazing sun
and the first tree struggled up from the forest floor
I had always loved you more.
You freed your braids,
gave your hair to the breeze.
It hummed like a hive of honey bees.
I reached in the mass for the sweet honey comb there,
Mmmm…God how I love your hair.
You saw me bludgeoned by circumstance.
Lost, injured, hurt by chance.
I screamed to the heavens….loudly screamed….
Trying to change our nightmares to dreams.
The sun has come.
The mists have gone.
We see in the distance our long way home.
I was yours to have.
And you were always mine.
We loved each other in and out,
in and out,
in and out of time.

—Dr. Maya Angelou


Happy Valentine’s Day,


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A few years ago, I wrote an article for an online young men’s publication about romantic movies that will appeal to both men and women.  With the recession in full swing, and frugality taking the place of “poppin bottles” and “makin’ it rain” in 2009, this revised list of classic and recent movies is just as relevant as it was when I first compiled it and is the perfect way for young men and women to spend less and get more this Valentine’s Day. 

(Interpret that however you please). 🙂


Movies for Him and Her 

By Travers Johnson

It never fails to cause a problem. You and your lady have planned a quiet night at home.  She orders the pizza and you turn the lights down in preparation for some one-on-one time on the couch in front of the television. The incense is burning, the mood is warm-all is right with the world.

That is until she pops Waiting to Exhale into the DVD player and finds you dead asleep before Angela Bassett’s character torches her adulterous husband’s car.   

She complains that you never like the movies she chooses; you say you would if they weren’t boring. She calls you insensitive, you call her spoiled. She brings up the recent calls from your ex-girlfriend. All hell breaks loose.

Choosing a movie that both people in a relationship will enjoy is no easy task.  It’s not breaking news that young women tend to prefer romantic comedies and dramas, while young men are usually more attracted to action movies and suspense thrillers. In February, however, love is on everybody’s mind and you should be wise enough to choose films accordingly (lest a night of lovin’ turn into a deathmatch).

With Cupid Day upon us, you have more important decisions to make than which movie choices will prevent World War 3. Therefore, we’ve made it easy on you and have compiled a list of romance movies, in no particular order, that will make her giddy and will keep you awake.

Slumdog Millionaire


This is the best film that I have seen in a very, very, very, very, VERY long time.  A poor and uneducated Mumbai teen accused of cheating on the Indian version of ‘Who Wants to Be a Millionaire?’ recounts how he was able to answer each question via a flashback to his hard-knock childhood.  But it’s the underlying story of undying love that is the real breath-taker.  With an excellent plot, impressive acting, and a banging soundtrack (i.e. M.I.A’s Paper Planes)  this is the perfect date movie.



Boomerang is the granddaddy of all Buppie (Black Urban Professional) romance movies, as this film set the standard for the on-screen portrayal of the “young, gifted, and black” set. The ladies adore this movie for its romantic storyline and images of successful, independent black women. You will sympathize with the plight of once-Casanovian Marcus (Eddie Murphy) and his love-struck ways. You can also look forward to 118 beautiful minutes of screen sirens Halle Berry and Robin Givens.

The Curious Case of Benjamin Button


This sweeping epic has it all—love, romance, dying, and death.  With as much buzz that this film has gotten, there’s really not much more that I can say about it than this: See it.

Coming to America


Where would the world be without the Prince of Zamunda? This Eddie Murphy classic tells the story of Prince Akeem of the fictional African country Zamunda, who, after becoming disillusioned by the arranged marriage customs of his homeland, travels to America to find his true “queeeeeeeeen to be.”  

With unforgettable scenes like the “Soul Glo” commercial and the black awareness rally, this romantic comedy is heavier on the comedy than the romance. Nonetheless, Coming to America is a guaranteed hit for all viewers and should be your first choice for a light movie night. “Let’s give it up for Sexual Chocolate!”

The Reader


Let me put it like this:  if Kate Winslet doesn’t win an mf’in Oscar for this role, shoes will be thrown at TV screens all across America.  In this post-Holocaust tale, a German boy has a passionate fling with a woman he later learns was a Nazi SS guard.  This tragic romance is not Coming to America, but you will appreciate the love story.

The Best Man


A more recent Buppie flick, The Best Man, is a winner for so many reasons. The story centers around four college friends (Taye Diggs, Morris Chestnut, Terrence Howard, and Harold Perrineau) who have reunited for the wedding of Lance (Chestnut) and Mia (Monica Calhoun). However, the good times are cut short when Harper’s (Diggs) barely fictionalized new book is read by members of the wedding party and causes massive drama.

You will both enjoy the storyline and will most likely be able to identify with at least one of the characters. Even if you have seen this film a million times, The Best Man is still the best bet for a good evening. Besides, who could ever forget that bachelor party scene? It’s like “candaaaayyy!”

Love Jones


Starring Larenz Tate and the beautiful Nia Long, Love Jones is the quintessential black romance movie. Darius Lovehall (Tate), a young poet, falls in love with talented photographer Nina Moseley (Long) and the rest of the show is aptly described by the film’s tagline: “Get together. Fall apart. Start over.”

It’s simple-there is nothing to dislike about this classic. If you and your lady have already had dinner, this movie can certainly be the dessert. (Or can put you in the mood for some).

Brown Sugar


On the surface, Brown Sugar is your ordinary love story: a music executive and magazine editor, who happen to be childhood best friends, are in love but are both currently in relationships. Nothing special, right? Wrong.

What makes this film so great, besides an hour-and-a half of Sanaa Lathan, is the parallel it makes between the evolution of the two main characters’ relationship and the evolution of hip-hop. The movie has delightful flashbacks to when the two lovers, and for that matter, hip-hop, was in its purest form.

She’ll love Taye Diggs, Boris Kodjoe, and the romance. You’ll love Sanaa Lathan, Nicole Ari Parker, and the hip-hop. By the movie’s end, you will be loving on each other.

Jason’s Lyric


Deeper than your typical romance movie, but retaining an air of simplicity and lightness, Jason’s Lyric is a mandatory addition to your “one-on-one time” collection. This dynamic movie tells the story of Jason’s (Allen Payne) struggle for inner peace amidst his love for the “playing hard-to-get” Lyric (Jada Pinkett Smith). A multilayered tale, this film explores the relationship between a mother and her son, two brothers, and a man and a woman.

It is, at once, sexual, tragic, courageous, and thought-provoking. If you and your lady are looking for mental and romantic stimulation, this is the film for you.

Love and Basketball


Now, you know that our list wouldn’t be complete without this one. Omar Epps, Sanaa Lathan, suspense, sex, adolescence, competition, conflict, college, love, basketball (fully and partially clothed) -this movie has it all.

If Boomerang is the granddaddy and Love Jones is the quintessential, then Love and Basketball is the titan of black romance movies. Equally as compelling to men as it is to women, there is absolutely no way that you can go wrong with this all-time favorite.

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